Tuesday, January 2, 2018

The Truth is Out - Time for a Change!

January.  The time of resolutions.  Time management, goal-setting, reviewing last year's accomplishments.  Being honest.

Honesty in blogging
I'll go first:   I started this blog in September 2010.   If it was a child, she would now be half-way through 2nd Grade--reading little books, reliably spelling high-frequency words like the, at, Mom; probably mastering a two-wheel bike and made her parents proud this past summer playing shortstop in peewee softball.

The truth is that the mother (me) of this "child" has been terribly (and often) negligent during these past seven+ years.   And while I've had many good intentions, quite honestly I've been busy doing many OTHER things (teaching, quilting, moving [twice!], recuperating from cancer & chemo, working full-time)--these are all pretty good as excuses go.

To be fair:  there was a span where I couldn't get INTO my blog (because I'm a nitwit sometimes!) so the poor thing languished for months--and I kind of lost my mo-jo.  Another span of quiet-time took place in 2014 after we moved, the cancer thing happened and I started working full-time.   I was tired and brain-dead.  

The truth is that I've been a poor manager of my time...actually my "evening time".   I'm a morning person and bounce out of bed at 5:30 (happy & cheerful--don't hate me!) so that I have time to read my Bible before I head to work at 6:45 (to be there by 7:15-ish).  When I get home at around 4:30, I'm toast.

So guess what I do?  I'm usually home alone (hubby's a truck driver) so I get my supper going, turn on the TV/Netflix/news, read my personal email or check Facebook, and usually fall asleep before the bad guy gets caught.  I wake up around 8:00pm, somewhat refreshed but my rear-end is glued to my chair and now it's "too late" to really get anything done.   I look through Instagram or Pinterest--"Oh look at THIS cute idea!"

The rest of the truth is this:  I've taken for granted the wide-reach my blog has.  Just recently I FINALLY did a project I've wanted to do for y-e-a-r-s on my blog:  make a list of all my blog titles.  As I was rooting around on the back side of my blog, I was STUNNED (stunned, I tell you!) to see that SOME of my posts have had hundreds and thousands of eyeballs on 'em--and I never even knew!  AND there are even COMMENTS on some of my posts!  When did THAT happen?   Why didn't I know?   My settings were supposed to send me notifications whenever that happened.

So . . . it's time for me to own up to my negligence.  And to apologize to all of you.  It is SO not me to ignore people--and I certainly am humbled by this evaluation of my blog-situation.

Your loyalty to this blog and to me is much appreciated and I promise to strive to do better (that shouldn't be too difficult since there's really nowhere to go but UP, right?!).

Also, I want to thank those of you who have left comments in the past.   I hope you'll understand--just like you (busy wife & mother), I am too.

Here is a list of the most popular Titus Two Friends posts I've written (other than holiday related):

10 - Leaving a Godly Legacy

  9 - My Times Are In Your Hands
  8 - Project:  Prompts for Prayers, Praises, Promises

  3 - At Home With Christ (How to do Family Devotions)

Last spring I delivered a keynote address at a homeschool conference.  The theme verse we focused on was this one from 1Thessalonians 5:11
Encourage one another & build up each other,
just as in fact you are doing.

When I started blogging seven years ago--right down to this very day--it has always been my intention to inspire you to be a godly woman, an excellent wife, a devoted mother, and a dear friend to those who are blessed to know you.  To help you see the blessings God has showered upon you, to give you a pep talk when you need it, and do it in a way that brings glory to God.

REQUEST:   I'm re-setting my settings, so that I get notifications whenever someone comments on any of my blog posts.   Would you do me a favor and when you read something, leave a little comment--maybe tell me what you liked or (dis) agree with, what pricked your conscience or raised a question.  

REQUEST #2:  If you like this post, please grab the URL and share it on your fave social media so others have a chance to read it, too.  

Thanks, friends, for helping me revive this neglected little blog.   


Here's a couple of other posts that deserve attention, too:

God Works - So Does Prayer         Snow Day Recipes

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Saturday, April 8, 2017

God Works ~ So Does Prayer

P.S.  Another late arrival on the blog page that was languishing in my Drafts Folder.  However, it's still timely because prayer is always, well, fitting!  


Do you think God is at work in your life?   Have you ever felt His hand on your shoulder or His breath on your cheek?  

I *know* that God is working in my life.   This weekend was another example of the awesome way He works in our lives and answers our prayers.

We’re making plans to move back to the Midwest which means selling our home in WV.

Monday last week, the realtor came over and we signed on to have him sell our house.   Tuesday he came to take pictures.  Thursday our house went "live" on the MLS.  

Between Friday evening and Sunday afternoon, we had FIVE showings of our home.   And Sunday evening, the realtor came over to present FOUR offers that came POURING in.

There have been other times in our life ~ life-changing times, head scratching times ~ when we have turned it over to Him, and all we can do is just sit back in slack-jawed, open-mouthed amazement at the way God works these things out.  

Years ago we were contemplating a move from Washington (the state) to Wisconsin.   We prayed with the children the night before we flew out for hubby's interview, "Please God, let us know in a big way if this is the thing you want us to do."  

I read something recently about miracles.  Jesus did miracles for people who had problems.  Who came to Him for help.  Who trusted that He would help them.  He didn't do miracles for the boastful or the arrogant or the unbelievers.  

Within a two-hour window, my hub was offered the job { boom! } AND our offer on a home was accepted { Boom! } AND our home back in Spokane had not one but TWO offers ABOVE our asking price.   { BooM! }  

He was letting us know in an undeniably BIG WAY:  Yes, this is what I want you to do!  He said--and meant it--"I will be with you."

It STILL blows my mind, "Look what God is doing in our lives," gives me goose bumps, makes shivers go up and down my spine.

Think about it.  The God who created the entire UNIVERSE (!!!) can and will take an active role in >>your<< life.   You.  The girl you see in the mirror every morning.  

There are three answers to our prayers: { YES! } and { No. } and { Not now, dear one. }  

We don't always get the answer we (think we) want.   That doesn't mean God isn't listening.   I assure you, that's not true.  He listens and He hears every time we pray.  Every word we say.  Even when we're so confused we can't string two sensible syllables together.   The groanings of a believer's heart--He totally gets that.

Sometimes the { No } ends up being the best thing that ever happened in your life.  Doesn't look that way to begin with, but that's where TRUST comes in.    You don't see the whole picture the way God does.

When we got married, I looked forward to having babies—expected it would be no time at all till we had a full quiver.   I prayed fervently to get pregnant with a baby girl.  I was pretty specific; I had this vision of pink frills & ruffles & lace.   (Remember I grew up with five brothers—so didn’t have much pink frilly stuff growing up!)  

After five years and no babies we decided to adopt waiting foster children.   Two boys (ages 10 & 11) joined our family.  We had one day to prepare for their arrival.  We were by then exploring what might be preventing us from getting preggers—but nothing showed up on any of the tests.  Three years later we added two more children (boy 9, girl 6) and were very happy with our growing family.  

Our oldest son once asked how old Mom & Dad would be when the youngest graduated from high school, so we figured it out:  42 & 43 years old.  Hmmm.   We joked that we’d sell the house & all our belongings and buy a motorhome & travel the country.  Our daughter would graduate in 2000, and we’d be footloose & fancy-free.   Sounded like fun.

Just a few months later, I found out I was pregnant—the same day that I was offered a teaching job in northwestern Montana.  What?!  And they wanted me to be head-coach of the high school girls’ volleyball team.  Are you kidding? 

I turned down the job, because I couldn’t imagine all that AND a new baby.  A few days later I had a miscarriage.  My heart was broken, devastated beyond words but after all those years of waiting I was THRILLED that I had FINALLY gotten pregnant!  A glimmer of hope!   

My mother-in-law encouraged me to contact the school to find out if the job was still available.  It was—we moved (again) and boy-oh-boy, that first year of teaching and coaching was incredible.   Summer vacation came along, and almost to the day—found out I was pregnant again!  Incredible. 

This time I prayed for a healthy pregnancy and secretly hoped for a baby girl, so I was briefly disappointed when I saw the ultrasound—but then rejoiced to see my son wiggling around joyously!   Oh the love, the love, the love!  

He brought so much delight to our lives, and when he was only 13 months old, I found out I was preggers again—no kidding.  A decade of barrenness and suddenly I was pregnant a THIRD time—unbelievable.   Anyone who knew me and how much I longed for a little girl was surprised when I told them I now wanted another little boy so they could be buddies the way my five brothers are friends.   And what a wonder, God answered that prayer!

Our little boys were four and six years old when I got pregnant again.   When anyone asked me what I wanted—boy or girl—I told them I wanted a healthy human baby, no kittens or puppies, just a healthy baby.   So what a wonder and blessing when our daughter was born.

The bossy, know-it-all “prayers” from 17 years earlier were NOW answered.   And then I realized what a BLESSING it was that God did NOT listen to me when I was ordering Him around.  

He knew—all those years earlier—that there would come a time in my life when I would be going through ovarian cancer and would need a lovely daughter by my side, to give me back rubs and friendship, to be my joy and delight.  

If God had listened to me, my daughter would’ve long before been gone from home.  Instead here she was—at JUST the right time—just as God knew all along.

When I reflected on God’s “long-range planning” done on my behalf, I was humbled and ashamed of my bullying and selfishness.   And amazed, too!  Once again—AGAIN!—I am a witness to God working everything out.  What once looked like a { No } was simply my Abba saying { not right now, Dear Deb }.  

It is a challenge at times, when we are faced with difficulties or sorrow, to see the actual blessing that may be a ways off, distant, or even “not on the horizon” . . . but IF we say we believe God when He says “your times are in My hands”, then we must TRUST in His timing.

The other half of this whole issue is believing that even in bad times, there is some good that will be worked.  Our whole thinking is very self-centered, that if we don’t get what we want, (1) God isn’t listening, (2) God isn’t very smart, (3) God doesn’t care, (4) then I’ll do my own thing outside of God’s will for me.  And when we do THAT, then we whine & moan when consequences roll over us and our families.  

My advice:  wait on God’s plan.  He DOES have a plan—better than your frail little human mind can conceive, dear friend.  Way better!  

If you're not feeling God's hand on your shoulder, perhaps it's time to review the path you're on.  How far away have you wandered?   If you think God is silent, maybe you're ignoring His answer.    Could it be that you're wresting control from Him thinking you know better than He what's right? 

"For I know the plans I have for you--
plans to prosper you and not to harm you
plans to give you hope and a future.
Then you will call upon Me
and come & pray to Me,
and I will listen to you.
You will seek Me and find Me
when you seek Me with all your heart.
I will be found by you," declares the Lord.
Jeremiah 29:11-14 NIV

Reflect on the course of events in your life.  Develop a thankful attitude even when things appear to be out-of-control and sorrow knocks at your door.  Live what you believe.  

QUESTION:  How has God answered your prayers?

You might enjoy these somewhat related (and entertaining) posts:

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