The following is a slightly edited version of the opening devotion shared
at our homeschool moms' support group kick-off meeting.
The passages chosen for this year’s theme are taken from Titus
2:3-5 and Galatians 6:2. Just look at
the verbs and “commands” within these verses:
Teach the older women to
be reverent in the way they live (not gossips or addicted to much wine), but
to teach what is good.
Then they can train the younger women to
love their husbands and children, to be
self-controlled and pure, busy at home,
kind, and subject to their husbands,
so that no one
will malign the Word of God.
Carry each others’ burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.
Paul wrote this to Titus, a young pastor, instructing him to TEACH the ‘older’
women who were (in turn) to train the younger women. These women were believers within his congregation.
Older woman—the Greek word
used here means presbutis –same as
presbyter (aged) – means chronologically as well as spiritually mature. This
would refer to two generations. The
“older” woman would be one who has–by virtue of age—been “seasoned” and has picked
up a few things over the years—knowledge and experience; she’s “qualified” to
teach these things!
Probably no longer has young children at home, thus more time on her hands
(thereby the warning about the dangers of being idle: gossiping, false accusations and getting
drunk—these are tempting to all women—and if we have TIME on our hands?—these
things do NOT fit with the definition of “godliness”).
Older women are those of us who have younger women in our midst,
whether our daughter is still sleeping in a crib or married with children of
her own. Our daughter’s friends and our
son’s girlfriends. Our sister and our
sister-in-law. Young moms at Bible
class or sitting on the sidelines at soccer games. Gals at church or co-op, in the neighborhood
or at the grocery store. They are
EVERYWHERE!
The older woman's knowledge and experiences in life should have helped her gain some
wisdom. Different translations: KJV says older women should be TEACHERS of
what is good, to give good counsel; Amplified version says to wisely train; NIV says to teach what is good.
Being young has great moments
(one-handed cartwheel, running, unbridled enthusiasm and ENERGY), but age has benefits, too. The parts
wearing out isn’t very much fun, but gaining wisdom is priceless!
Older women—please, take seriously the “commands” listed here because those of
tender years and ears ARE watching your actions, listening to your words, and
modeling themselves after you (or not).
What a joyful burden to carry—God will enable you!—do it to His
glory.
Younger women—seek out and pay attention to those spiritually mature older women whose lives are “teaching what is good.” Their knowledge and experience, sensibility,
faithfulness. Learn from these
ladies: what is good, what has or
hasn’t worked for them. Then, LOVE the
life you’ve been given and keep busy making your home a place of refuge for
your husband and children. The everyday
burdens will be lighter when you have an older friend helping you lift the
load.
Likewise – means “similarly”
- Paul starts verse 2 with this word....which refers back to the previous paragraph
where he addresses how Titus should train older men; these are qualities he describes which we “older women” are to emulate:
- Being temperate or reverent which KJV says “as becometh holiness” (mental sobriety),
dignified & WORTHY of respect/mature (a big responsibility!!!),
- self-controlled, sensible, well-balanced,
- sound in faith (sound means “healthy”) – trusting God,
- sound in love
(selflessness or “charity”) and
- sound in endurance (patience).
Other qualities Paul mentions for the older MEN which can parallel our
roles at home include having exemplary behavior, attitudes and characteristics,
and being good leaders.
Oh yes! Women fill an important place in God’s kingdom: think how important our homes are—as training
ground for future families, future “warriors” for the Lord; so please: train by example
and words.
Younger women – NEED to be
trained in
- loving their hub and children – not the
“feeling” part of love, but the “action” part of love…..love is SACRIFICIAL –
not about “personal fulfillment” – ACTIONS
(refer to 1 Cor 13--stated below in the POSITIVE)
o
patience
o
kindness
o
contentment
o
quietness & gentleness
o
humility
o
polite & courteous
o
sacrificial
o
good-natured
o
forgives & forgets
o
pure
o
protective
o
trust-worthy & reliable
o
hopeful
o
consistent & persevering
- Self-control and being sensible (KJV – discreet)
- Purity and chastity – FLEE temptations (impurity
kills marriages, families, faith) - "flee" means to run for your life--serious danger!!!
- Kindness – (Ampl – good-natured), kind-hearted,
goodness—wants to do ‘good’
- Busy at
home (KJV – keepers at home; Ampl – home-makers) – noble work; your role
is NOT determined by society but by the Lord who created man and woman and
established the family!
- Subject to her husband, submissive – not
demeaning as a door-mat; rather UNITY and WELL-being of the family (think of the
chain-of-command; organizational chart at a business--the buck has to stop somewhere...God says it should be your Husband--not you!). Ampl – adapting
& subordinating herself to her hub.
KJV says obedient to her own husband.
So no one will malign the Word of God:
ungodly, pagans looking for reasons to belittle Christians. Dear sisters, we must give them NO
opportunity! Ampl – exposed to
reproach/blasphemed or discredited. When we Christian
women buck against the job description God has given us—we DISCREDIT the role,
too—make other Christian wives and mothers look bad!!!
Have you ever said "welcome to the real world" when a young mom asked for advice? Or told horror stories about labor & delivery? Have you ever whined about your inconsiderate, irritating, or thoughtless (but dear) husband?
Careful, dear sisters! We may
be joking, we may be exaggerating. Maybe our peers understand – but tender
hearts can be injured by our careless joking words!
Malign the Word of God?
Never!!! But are your words and
actions in line with God’s Word?
Carry a burden for someone, whether in word or deed. Be mindful of those near you and the
struggles or fears they face. Encourage
and praise and thank one another and your children and your friends; submit
lovingly to your husband. Seek to please
God in every word you speak or think and every action you do.
Finally, dear ladies, young and old, keep busy with fruitful projects,
be kind to others, daily turn to God’s powerful Word. When you find yourself swept up in gossip,
hypocrisy, laziness, or impurity flee to the cross! Only
there will you be able to fulfill Christ’s command to live in such a way that through
you, others will come to know of Him!
Build friendships with those on the path to Heaven, be accountable to
one another.
May God’s richest blessings shower you with confidence
as you set off
on another year of teaching, training and carrying …
and in family leadership
as a woman who lives for the Lord!
